The Newest Gadget!

Once upon a time I wanted the newest and most awesome invention to ever hit the market! What was it?… a piece of crap lol that’s what all new gadgets are, junk. If anyone has read the book “Needful Things by Steven King, you would know what I am talking about. I stopped myself just minutes ago from purchasing a new audio amp. Do I need one, yes.. but do I need one like I need food? No.. I don’t need one in that sense; my radio only works with an amp. I guess rain got in it from a crack in the windshield and it stopped playing. But back to the amp… I don’t need a new high tech device, a used one will work just as well and be a hell of a lot cheaper! Here are two of the high tech purchases from my past.

High Tech of the 90′s

Now I doubt anyone recognizes these lol the phone was popular at the time, its one of the first flip phones on the market. People were amazed at how small it was.. its actually very chunky. This is the analog version; the digital one didn’t come until a year later. I remember wanting the new digital all black one but I never got around to getting one, I’m not exactly sure why either. Maybe I wasn’t impressed with having a phone.. who knows lol

The other gadget in the picture is a super cool high tech email device!!! Wow! Lol you would pay a monthly fee to be able to send emails without a computer… kind of like the cell phones we use now lol except, this device didn’t send the emails. You could compose them but the only way to send them would be to call a number. The device had this ear piece thing that covered the mouth of the phone to send and receive signals. It sounded like a fax machine; I think it utilized the same fax technology. BTW why hasn’t someone come out with a better fax machine geez lol

Anyway, those were my two high tech items that I now have absolutely no use for and haven’t a clue what to do with them. I may give them to my 6 year old nephew to play with.. I.e. destroy lol  So my advice for you all… don’t buy it unless you absolutely need it!

Marriage is for the Birds

I still talk to the married chick, we’ve become each other’s confidants. Yes I do realize she is spoken for so I have kept my distance although I must admit I would like to see her. She has a huge heart that is wasted on an ungrateful barbarian. She really wants a divorce, I think she should get one.. and even though I am biased it has nothing to do with me. I think she needs one for her children. Kids don’t need two parents to grow up normal. As sad as it sounds just about every adult I know was raised by a single parent or were the product of divorce. Most of them are wonderful parents, their marriages seem to be fake but I have yet to meet anyone in a happy marriage. Maybe they are happy the first few years but after reality sinks in, one or both want to abandon ship.

I normally believe that once you make a commitment to someone you should try everything possible before throwing in the towel. The rules change when it comes to an abusive relationship. It’s funny because no matter how much these woman cannot stand their abusers they usually make excuses for them. There has been many times where I would tell the married chick to stop making excuses for her husband’s erratic and abusive behavior. I guess that she has been doing it for so long she no longer realizes she does it. I have a friend whose husband is a control freak, he flies off the handle and likes to make fun of people.. he does it with total disregard to others feelings. She always downplays his behavior by saying oh he’s just kidding, or that’s how he is towards everyone, he doesn’t mean anything by it.. blah blah blah.

I know from personal experience it’s not easy freeing yourself from the clutches of an abusive control freak and yes women can be just as much an asshole as men in that department.  Like I tell my friend, manipulation is learned from an early age. But it doesn’t have to all be negative… everyone does it even the smallest baby learns that hey if I cry they someone will come running.  However, not everyone abuses manipulation… and the ones that do are full of shit when they say they love you.

Here’s the list I sent the married chick. I told her to wake up, she is a victim of domestic violence and her children are going to grow up reaping what their parents sow.

What is Domestic Violence?

Controlling

• Name Calling, mind games
• Isolate partner from friends, loved ones

Domination

• Abuser decides
• Servant/Master

Intimidating

• Bullying
• Charming in public, menacing in private
• Destroying property or pets
• Making light of abuse: “You’re too sensitive”

Physical Abuse

• Hit, choke, kick, pinch, pull hair, poke, twist arms, trip, bite, restrain, use weapons

Emotion Manipulation

• Use jealousy, passion, stress and frustration to justify

Sexual Abuse

• Force partner to do things against their will

Economic Control

• Deny job freedom
• Withhold money

Are you in an Abusive Relationship?

Check list of examples of abuse. One or more of these behaviors could indicate that you are in an abusive relationship

Does the person you love . . .

• Track all your time?
• Discourage other friendships?
• Criticize you often for little things?
• Have Extreme mood changes?
• Anger easily when drinking or when doing drugs?
• Show extreme jealousy for no reason?

Has the person you love ever . . .

• Struck or kicked you or spit on you?
• Threatened you with an object/weapon
• Caused you to be afraid of them?
• Threatened to hurt a pet or destroy property?
• Blamed you for their abusiveness?
• Forced you to have sex?

YOU
Do not deserve to be abused
Have the right to live without violence
Have the right to make decisions
Are not alone with this problem
Can free your life from domestic violence

http://www.cadv-ohio.com/home/help/what/

I knew just by the way she described her relationship to me that she was in an abusive relationship; I guess it’s easier for someone on the outside looking in to see what you cannot. He still controls every drop of her money and continues to lavish himself with needless luxuries.  She was telling me how he went around throwing his kids things away that they left lying around yet all his stuff is everywhere. I told her that he most likely learned that behavior from his parents, that’s why he clings to material possessions.. he is afraid they will be taken away from him.

It’s like insecurity; they threw everything that meant something to him away when he didn’t do what they wanted so he surrounds himself with expensive crap to compensate. That’s just my theory but I’m usually pretty good at reading people, even the ones described to me. He is a selfish hoarder, a control freak, an abuser.. he was spoiled as a child and given anything he cried for yet at any moment it could be snatched away when he didn’t behave so he grew up without a sense of security.. hence the reason he surrounds himself with things.  The guy has problems that run very deep, he’s threatened to get his wife fired and somehow try to use me to do it lol

I talk to her on her lunch break, I call so there is no company expense. He is grasping at straws; he is losing control and he does not know how to handle it. it’s all empty threats, he threatens to shoot me lol he would have to shoot me as I sleep because 25 years of Shotokan karate would be unleashed on his ass before he could even point the barrel lol he threatens to fix the books and commit fraud so he won’t have to pay alimony or child support. Lol I have to laugh at that one because you cannot all of a sudden change an income without raising red flags. Either this man is an idiot or he thinks his wife is, either case If he ever reads this then I offer you my expertise as years as a forensic accountant….. here are some tips for you Mr.jackass…

What’s a Forensic accountant?

Forensic Auditing, also called forensic accounting, includes the steps needed to detect and deter fraud.

Forensic accountants work in two primary areas, investigative accounting and litigation support. Investigative accounting encompasses not just the numbers and documents of a company, but the business environment as well. Forensic accountants investigate the financial operations of an enterprise and prepare information that may be used in a criminal or civil court case. Forensic accountants provide investigative services or provide support for litigation.

So that’s all she would need to do, contact a FA and laugh all the way to the bank.. her husband of course will have to pay fee after fee and may even face jail time. BTW For anyone committing fraud or anyone that knows someone is committing fraud and wants to stick it to them… look up IRS form 3949A.

Kids need a loving stable home, no one should have to walk on eggshells. And you do not need two parents in the same house to raise healthy, functional children. I almost married my daughter’s mother way back when… I thought it was the right thing to do but getting married just because you share a child is one of the worst things you can do to the kid. We all get along great now and my daughter has two rooms and two different experiences she can share with her own children one day (when she’s at least 35 lol) I wouldn’t want her to see the time she spent with me as party land.. she’s a good kid and we usually see eye to eye so there’s not much conflict although her behavior at times is a little animated but I keep reminding myself to have patience… that’s what parenting is all about, making your kids feel like they are the most important people in the world to you.. and they should be.

Kids are great and they should always come first!

The life of a Slacker….

It looks like I’ve been slacking in the blog department. It’s not that I haven’t been busy, oh I have.. I have been painting and patching and cleaning mold… It’s a long story that I would rather not get into at the moment. Let’s just say I am fixing a fixer-upper. I am finally able to move again without excruciating pain.. .I don’t really remember when the pain left but it was gone as mysteriously as it appeared. That is not to say I do not have strange muscle spasm type pulling in my left leg and sometimes lower back… no, there is definitely remnants of my injury, assuming it was an injury that caused the torture I endured for months.

I still cook up creations from time to time. Just last night I made mandarin orange pork chops.  While I am confident there is a recipe for mandarin orange (MO) pork chop.. I did not use one, nor did I search for one. I had raw pork chops and a can of mandarin orange; something told me they would be great together. I steamed the chops in the MO juice until they were fully cooked, then I transferred them to another pan with some butter, brown sugar, garlic salt and the oranges. Even though this wasn’t an Asian dish, I wanted to emulate the way Asian food hits you with a sweet yet salty flavor. BTW Asian doesn’t necessarily mean Chinese food; Indian food also has that same double whammy of flavor. Anyway, I made some steam rice and dumped the concoction over it and viola.. It was pretty good.

Summer is almost here. The weather has been amazing; I know it’s still early so I can’t claim to live in the most comfortable state just yet, whether our weather stays wonderful remains to be seen.  Hmm I think that is the first time I used the double whether/weather together. It’s funny how some people cannot for the life of them spell either one. My younger sister always has trouble with them. I never had a problem with those two words but there is one word that I will go to my grave not knowing how to spell..  its in this blog so thank goodness for spell check lol  actually I spell it so poorly that half the time spell check cant even decipher what I am trying to spell!! Lol I shall copy and paste it below….

Necessarily — yep, that’s the word. It’s like my brain rejected any ability to spell that word, it’s terrible but almost comical lol

Lets see.. what else is new with me… well, like I mentioned, its almost summer so that means I’ll have my daughter around 24/7 while her mother teaches. I figured that since she has the kid most of the time the least I could do was offer to keep her over the summer. I usually end up with her anyway but I thought it would make more sense to discuss it, I know her mother has been wanting to teach full time and having a 10 year old around that requires a ton of attention doesn’t make it easy. I always tell myself I am going to plan out a bunch of activities to do over the summer but I never do. We just play it by ear. She plays softball sat morning. I try to attend every game but when I was in that crazy pain there was no moving. I couldn’t even enjoy her b-day party. It was very frustrating and eye opening at the same time.

This is the third time my body has been through a debilitating state.  After each previous one I promised myself I will get out there and do something, physical activity or something positive for myself or towards others. That was the main reason I went to Miami last year, I could have easily went to school 20 minutes away but where is the excitement in that? Where is the sense of adventure, the unknown. We as human beings need to challenge ourselves or we fall into a rut and sometimes it’s not so easy to climb out of it. I told my daughter that we could do anything she wants over the summer.. within reason that is, I mean I would have to say no to bungee jumping lol I’m not 100% yet so there is a little worry in the back of my mind.. I sometimes wonder if I’ll get hit with that pain again, but for the most part I try not to think about it. I do not want to get sunburn ever again so if we end up at the beach I’ll be sitting under the umbrella with the rest of the old folks lol

Time to hit the beach!